Character or Cauliflower

L.A. McMurray • August 17, 2025
Three appetizers, each in lettuce cups, garnished with lime and flowers.

Craving Deliciousness vs. Standing on Principles

The struggle is real; do I have a delicious lunch or stand on my principles. I loved this

restaurant’s buffalo cauliflower lettuce wraps and the ability to build my own bowl of soup or

cauliflower rice base or greens base. They have bone broth, sweet potato fries, grass-fed Wagyu

burgers, keto friendly choices, and vegan options. It’s delightfully healthy and tasty, a rare

combo. Wherein lies my dilemma. The owner is a horrible human being.


The well-known restaurateur employs only “pretty” young women whose t-shirts make it easy to

guess their bra size, and shorts made with less than a yard of fabric. I know, I used to sew.

I frequented the place before and after I heard he was bad but didn’t know exactly how bad. The

last time I was there, one of the employees let her Siberian Husky sit in the booth on the seat

with her, eat off her/the restaurant’s plate and lick out of her/the restaurant’s glass. Disgusting!

Were my receptacles ever dog bowls?



That hit high on my repulsive meter. I contacted the health department and knew I couldn’t go

back. But… enough time lapsed where I considered it. I wanted those cauliflower wraps. I chose

a different café nearby yet still contemplated which one would get my business. The cauliflower

was calling me. Torn, I googled the owner again and read information I had not heard before. In

bold headlines, he was accused of rape, kidnapping, strangulation, felonious assault, and

attempted murder.

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Demand Integrity: Stand Against Unethical Behavior Everywhere!


I also read of employees accusing him of sexual harassment; employees lose shifts for not

following unlawful protocol, management take tips, and he requests photos of the servers in

advance of hiring them. Reportedly, he called out an “ugly” server to be fired on the company

chat with more than 150 other employees. But then posts on social media “Christian” principled

statements. Hmmm.


On Reditt they call him a “douchebro.” It means exactly what you think. Deflated, I couldn’t get

the cauliflower wraps, no matter how good they were. I can’t give my business to a Douchebro.

Which turned my thoughts toward other dilemmas, or at least for me, maybe not for others. I find

it hard to accept unscrupulous behavior, criminal actions, and lack of character, integrity, and

human decency just because someone is …a winning coach, celebrity, star athlete, CEO,

politician, billionaire, priest, pastor, boss, etc.


Why is this behavior and mistreatment of other humans overlooked just because that person has

money, influence, power, talent, amazing cauliflower wraps?

We buy from companies run by unethical CEOs. We purchase goods from countries with known

human rights violations. We have no problem using social media sites built on betrayal,

manipulation, privacy violations, and deliberate misinformation.


Where are our morals, standards, and the courage to stand up for character, integrity, and human

decency?


We need a spiritual revolution, character metamorphosis, integrity uprising here, there, and

everywhere human rights are violated and buffalo cauliflower wraps are sold.

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